Thoughts and Observations of A Four Dimensional Man

​Somehow, somewhere in athletics we were taught to confront people for wrongdoing in front of others.  Call them out in front of the entire team.  If there’s a issue, the leader is supposed to call the person out and have them right their wrongs.  Because they broke team rules or went against team culture.  I’ve found that calling people out in front of the entire group does more harm than help.   We have to remember that people have feelings and don’t like to be viewed as anything less than perfect.  We are insecure.  We don’t like to be wrong.  We don’t like to be wrong in front of our peers.  We like to believe we have it all together.  But that’s not the truth.  There is so much we have to work on and improve on.   Confronting someone for doing wrong is tough because we’re afraid of conflict. I’ve found that how we confront this person is the most important factor.  When someone makes a mistake we should go to that per...

​ You Never Know Who’s Watching You never know who’s watching. Your actions are always being watched.    I don’t say that to be negative but I say that so we can be more aware of our personal influence.  I got into sports performance coaching to bring the individual greatness out of young people.    We can teach these athletes so much about the X’s and O’s of skill development but sometimes we forget that our IMAGE and the EXAMPLE we set are more impactful than our words.   We recently had a team meeting where a psychology and sociology professor performed an experiment to increase the love and appreciation for each other. This experiment caused us to shed tears and express our deepest feelings about each other as coaches and players. I had multiple players come up to me and share that I’ve made a large impact on their lives just by the way I carry myself.  Some said that they never saw a black man carry himself with so much authority and strength...