Thoughts and Observations of A Four Dimensional Man

​The Beautiful Dynamics of a Team When one shines, we all shine.   When one falls, we all fall.  When one rises, we all rise. When one fades, we all fade.   With team success comes individual recognition.   The likelihood of success decreases when selfishness develops.   The probability of winning increases the more selflessness is present.  Everyone has a role. Everyone plays a part.  Deviation from the plan can lead to defeat.   If one doesn’t communicate or relay the message opposing attacks can be fatal.  Teammates must be courageous enough to speak up.  Teammates must be humble enough to listen.  The team must respect the lines of communication. The team must respect the decisions that are made on behalf of the team.  Ego, Gossip, Complaining, and Entitlement can kill a team from within.  Trust, Sacrifice, and Love can strengthen a team from within.  Shared hardship creates lasting, unbreakable bonds.  When ...

“He will die for lack of self-control; he will be lost because of his great foolishness.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭5:23‬ ‭NLT‬‬ DISCIPLINE and WISDOM  must be championed above all things.  If I have wisdom I can make the necessary decisions to get closer to the outcomes I want.   If I have discipline I won’t allow myself to be tempted by attacks to get me off-path.  Dominate the Day. 

​Somehow, somewhere in athletics we were taught to confront people for wrongdoing in front of others.  Call them out in front of the entire team.  If there’s a issue, the leader is supposed to call the person out and have them right their wrongs.  Because they broke team rules or went against team culture.  I’ve found that calling people out in front of the entire group does more harm than help.   We have to remember that people have feelings and don’t like to be viewed as anything less than perfect.  We are insecure.  We don’t like to be wrong.  We don’t like to be wrong in front of our peers.  We like to believe we have it all together.  But that’s not the truth.  There is so much we have to work on and improve on.   Confronting someone for doing wrong is tough because we’re afraid of conflict. I’ve found that how we confront this person is the most important factor.  When someone makes a mistake we should go to that per...

​ Ignorance is Expensive Ignorance is expensive Ignorance can cost you money, time, and opportunity. Ignorance can cost you your career.  Ignorance can cost you your health.  Ignorance can cost you your life.  Ignorance can cost those depending on you.  Not knowing is not an excuse. The consequence will still be there.  How to avoid ignorance? LEARN. ASK. SEEK. KNOCK. Someone will answer you, even if it’s yourself.  

​ You Never Know Who’s Watching You never know who’s watching. Your actions are always being watched.    I don’t say that to be negative but I say that so we can be more aware of our personal influence.  I got into sports performance coaching to bring the individual greatness out of young people.    We can teach these athletes so much about the X’s and O’s of skill development but sometimes we forget that our IMAGE and the EXAMPLE we set are more impactful than our words.   We recently had a team meeting where a psychology and sociology professor performed an experiment to increase the love and appreciation for each other. This experiment caused us to shed tears and express our deepest feelings about each other as coaches and players. I had multiple players come up to me and share that I’ve made a large impact on their lives just by the way I carry myself.  Some said that they never saw a black man carry himself with so much authority and strength...